Do you feel like there’s no way you can overcome sadness? Don’t worry, we all have our bad moments, when an inexplicable sense of emptiness lies within us and no one can cheer us up. Some feel this way more often, some may have lived only a few moments like these. Either way, it is normal to feel sad from time to time; after all, our feelings are what make us human.
During my teenage years I used to be quite a melancholic girl, always dwelling on the past and obsessively thinking about all of the what ifs (I still do that sometimes). Even though I was perceived as being a very optimistic person, sadness was written all over my introverted active brain. And we all know what happens to sad thinkers who don’t know how to control their thoughts – they get anxious, lonely and feel that life is nothing but a burden.
It took me some years to find the light at the end of the tunnel. When you deal with these kinds of feelings for the first time, how can someone convince you that it will ever get better?
Fortunately, there are some ways to overcome sadness and stop your brain from sabotaging you. When you are feeling down and your whole world is tearing apart, remember that you’re still in control. Here are some of the most efficient techniques that helped me tame my sad demons.
1. Focus on your breathing
It’s a cliché, but it actually works. Our brains prefer single tasking, so when we receive a new task that has to be done, the previous one (having sad thoughts) enters standby mode. It’s not a long term solution for sadness, but it help when you feel really overwhelmed and tired.
2. Acknowledge that this feeling will pass
Time heals all wounds, including this one. You have to be patient, accept your sorrow and have faith that better days are yet to come. Allow your mind to do its thing and don’t try to fight it – have sympathy for yourself like you would for a dear friend of yours.
3. Create a happy environment
Do you like the music from the 80s? Or maybe you feel better with the lights on? Small details can make all the difference. When I’m sad, I listen to rhythmic music, watch a comedy or go out for a run until my feet hurt. For everyone of us there is something that always manages to make us a bit happier. You just got to find your own.
4. Take care of your body
We shelter our soul in this inexplicable and fascinating system called the human body. Therefore, it is our duty to take care of it – nourish it, protect it and pause it when necessary. Try some easy workout exercises to increase the level of endorphins, you will feel the effect almost instantly. Also, it is known that sleep deprivation is one of the most damaging thing we can do to ourselves, and if our state of mind is not a good one, the lack of sleep will only intensify the feeling of sadness and helplessness. So close the curtains and give your body a break, it really needs it.
5. Meet a friend
If nothing works and you need a shoulder to cry on, go out with a friend whom you trust. Nothing is better than knowing that you are loved and you are not alone. If you don’t have any close friends and need someone to talk to, write to me and I’ll get back to you as soon as I can – you can find my contact details here. We will try to overcome sadness together. 🙂
What other ways of overcoming sadness have you tried? Share them with us, you might help someone be happier today!